“Let us rejoice and be glad and give the glory to Him, for the marriage of the Lamb has come and His bride has made herself ready.” It was given to her to clothe herself in fine linen, bright and clean; for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints. Then he said to me, “Write, ‘Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb.'” And he said to me, “These are true words of God.“
On the wedding day the groom wears little or white linen garments. This signifies purity, holiness and a new beginning.
There are 3 parts to a jewish wedding
Shiddukhin, a mutual commitment
Erusin, the engagement
Nissuin, the marriage
At the shiddukhin the bride price was paid. This is called the mohar. It is the sum that the father of the groom gives for the bride. The mohar that the Father paid was the very life of His Son. Nothing else was good enough for the bride except the blood of the perfect, sinless, Son of God.
Next a ketubah is drawn up. This is an agreement that outlines the bride to be special rights and it would lay out what the groom would do for her. This document is so important if the couple loses it or it gets destroyed they could be considered not officially married until they get a new one. This document for us is the Word of God. It gives us our promises and tells us what our groom is going to do.
If the full bride price cannot be paid sometimes a down payment is made.
In Him, you also, after listening to the message of truth, the gospel of your salvation-having also believed, you were sealed in Him with the Holy Spirit of promise, who is given as a pledge of our inheritance, with a view to the redemption of God’s own possession, to the praise of His glory.
Ephesians 1:13-14 NASB
Alot of unions in bible days were set up by the parents.
“Abraham said to his servant, the oldest of his household, who had charge of all that he owned, “Please place your hand under my thigh, and I will make you swear by the Lord , the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you shall not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I live, but you will go to my country and to my relatives, and take a wife for my son Isaac.”
Genesis 24:2-4 NASB
Abraham (the father) sent his servant (representing the Holy Spirit) to get a bride (the church) for his son Isaac (Jesus). The servant found Rebecca but he wouldnt take her by force, she had to choose.
“And they said, “We will call the girl and consult her wishes.” Then they called Rebekah and said to her, “Will you go with this man?” And she said, “I will go.” Thus they sent away their sister Rebekah and her nurse with Abraham’s servant and his men.”
Genesis 24:57-59 NASB
Even though the Father has chosen us and sends Holy Spirit to get us we still must choose. He will not take us by force, He allows us to choose.
In preparation the bride and groom are immersed in water separately.
“Then Jesus arrived from Galilee at the Jordan coming to John, to be baptized by him. But John tried to prevent Him, saying, “I have need to be baptized by You, and do You come to me?” But Jesus answering said to him, “Permit it at this time; for in this way it is fitting for us to fulfill all righteousness.” Then he permitted Him. After being baptized, Jesus came up immediately from the water; and behold, the heavens were opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending as a dove and lighting on Him, and behold, a voice out of the heavens said, “This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well-pleased.”
Matthew 3:13-17 NASB
Yeshua was immersed and we are told to also be immersed in water.
Then there is the erusin or the betrothal period. The couple at this time was considered married and would even have to get a divorce to separate but they did not live together or engage in intimacy. Mary and Joseph was in this phase when Mary became pregnant with Jesus.
“Now the birth of Jesus Christ was as follows: when His mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child by the Holy Spirit. And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned to send her away secretly. But when he had considered this, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife; for the Child who has been conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. She will bear a Son; and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins.” Now all this took place to fulfill what was spoken by the Lord through the prophet: ” behold , the virgin shall be with child and shall bear a son , and they shall call his name immanuel ,” which translated means, ” God with us .” And Joseph awoke from his sleep and did as the angel of the Lord commanded him, and took Mary as his wife, but kept her a virgin until she gave birth to a Son; and he called His name Jesus.”
Matthew 1:18-25 NASB
The groom would at this point go back to his fathers house and spend 9 months to a year working on a place for him and his bride.
“In My Father’s house are many dwelling places; if it were not so, I would have told you; for I go to prepare a place for you. If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, that where I am, there you may be also.”
John 14:2-3 NASB
During this time the bride will focus on getting herself ready, making personal preparations. This includes the wedding garments, and the lamps. Even though the bride knew a time frame when her groom would come for her she didnt know the exact day or hour. The final approval for the groom coming to take his bride was left up to the father.
“But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father alone.”
Matthew 24:36 NASB
For this reason the bride had to keep her lamp ready. Wic trimmed, oil in the lamp. It would be shameful if the groom came at night for his bride and her lamp was not filled with oil. It would show she was not ready for or looking for her grooms coming.
–parabal of the 10 virgins- (Matt 25)
The groom would not enter the brides house but he would send some before him to start calling out “the groom is coming, the groom is coming” sometimes they would go door to door letting everyone know. The groom would come close to the brides house and blow the shofar and the bride would come out to meet her groom.
“For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive and remain will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we shall always be with the Lord.”
1 Thessalonians 4:16-17 NASB
Now we have the final stage, the Nissuin. This word comes from naso which means “to lift up”.
The groom nasos or lifts up his bride and carries her into the huppah, a temporary structure for the wedding feast. They would stay in the huppah for 7 days while the celebration was going on. Weddings were not a one day celebration but usually 7 days.
I feel like this is a beautiful picture of our relationship with our groom.
The bride price was paid, the blood of Jesus was shed for us on the cross.
Our ketubah, the Word of God, lays out all our promises and shows us our inheritance.
The down payment has been made in the form of Holy Spirit.
Father chose us, Holy Spirit came for us, we must say YES!
We are immersed or baptised.
If we have said yes to Christ we are now in the erusin period. We are sealed, we belong to Him and He has gone to prepare a place for us. Now is our time to make sure we are in the sanctification or cleaning up process with Holy Spirit so we will not be ashamed at His Coming.
Our groom will come in the clouds, not to the earth just yet, and lift us up or rapture us to meet Him in the air. We will enter heaven for the marriage supper of the Lamb and spend 7 years in our huppah or temporary place as we have not been appointed to wrath. Then we will return with Him to the earth as He sets up His kingdom on the earth.